You’re on the fence. “Maybe I’ll call. Maybe I’ll email. But I’m not sure if it’s really that bad.”
So you procrastinate, you stay busy with other things. Some days are good – maybe if you just have more of those, things will be fine, you’ll get through it on your own.
You want help, but you don’t want help. You really just want it fixed, wish it weren’t there, wish you could waive a magic wand and start doing/feeling/behaving differently.
Asking for help doesn’t mean you’re a failure, or that you are weak or broken or defective. It means you are a real human. It means that you’re open to learning, to growth, and to change. That openness takes courage.
When people examine what they’re most fearful of when seeking help, there are a lot of answers. Profound discomfort. Others’ disapproval. My own disapproval. Shame. Guilt. Are any of these things really more important than your own mental health?
Courage does not magically appear with a pill or an incantation. You can create the courage you need to take this step, because feelings follow behavior. The feeling of courage will come during or after the courageous action, but probably not before.
You don’t need Courage in order to act. Courage needs you to act, and then it will be there. It will be there so fast, that you might just forget that you didn’t have it to begin with.
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